Feeling guilty or inadequate is a common feeling. When guilt creeps into my being, life is sucked away. Often guilt comes when I have an expectation of myself (usually self-imposed or imposed), and I don’t live up to the expectation.
All these “have to’s” and “shoulds” dig me into a hole of guilt and inadequacy.
Here is a changed way of thinking:
I can’t have everything. I don’t need everything.
What do I really want in life? I want to love my family. I want to care for my community. I want to have a holy Spiritual awareness in my life.
This is a shift in my spirit. When I am not able to do “everything”, I think about what I desire in life. I want to follow Jesus. I want to love others. I want to love my family. I want to love my husband. So when I don’t get everything done, I can’t feel overwhelmed by my own inadequacy, but I can focus on what I know I long for.
This perspective does require sacrifice. I often need to focus on what I want in the big picture. For example, because I want to have a healthy body, I sometimes have to wake up early in the morning to do some exercise. I don’t usually feel like waking up early, but the bigger picture trumps the short term desire to sleep longer. I may feel short on time, rushed, busy, but I WANT to know that life is bigger than the physical, so I stop for a moment and look at the frost on the trees on a sunny January day (like today).

